Meanings and beliefs are like lenses and will get bigger and thicker because of our focus (attention) on the physical proofs.
Positive focus is the natural state; we don’t need to learn how to do it. The reason why we focus negatively and then have unwanted results is because we were trained out of our own compass to conform the expectations of the family and society we were born into.
Every person has light and shadow in his personality. I love them both because I love the way you are. I love the crying children in you, and I also love the mature and nurturing adult you are now. I love you, no matter how.